Published April 14, 2020. “I came to visit, ‘cause you see me like a UFO / That’s like never, ‘cause I made you use your self control / And you made me lose my self control, my self control.” –Frank Ocean, Finally, after another shift in perspective, we arrive at the “self control” motif. There you find yourself grooving with the simplicity of the track. By the second verse, Frank has begun speaking for—not exactly his former lover—an enigmatic you. Then, as Austin Feinstein sang, “Keep a place for me, for me / I’ll sleep between y’all, it’s nothing,” tears welled up in my eyes. By this point in Blonde, “Self Control” is the saddest and most desperate moment of the album, because the more you sit with the song, the more you realize Frank Ocean is bleeding all over wax. Powered by  - Designed with the Hueman theme, lamenting the dissolution of their relationship, Frank Ocean’s “In My Room” Lyrics Meaning. [Frank Ocean] Now and then you miss it, sounds make you cry Some nights you dance with tears in your eyes I came to visit, 'cause you see me like a UFO That's like never, 'cause I made you use your self-control And you made me lose my self-control, my self-control [Austin Feinstein & Yung Lean] Keep a place for me, for me by Danny Brown. Everything boils down to the final line of the first verse, where Frank lambasts timing with a timid delivery. I thought about all the people who had left before her, and how horrible it might be if she had to go “Take down some summertime” herself. Blonde (alternatively titled blond) is the second studio album by American singer Frank Ocean.It was released on August 20, 2016, as a timed exclusive on the iTunes Store and Apple Music, and followed the August 19 release of Ocean's video album Endless.In 2013, Ocean confirmed that his follow up to Channel Orange would be another concept album. Firstly, it takes us to Frank’s meeting this man, how he was slick in his approach. They've appeared in his lyrics, in … Analog 2. by Odd Future. If we’re not careful, it feels like we could spend entire days pining after what was. Other (External) Links “Good Guy” presents a Frank Ocean bereft of peace. Ain't It Funny. The lyrics of Frank Ocean’s “Self Control” see him addressing an ex. Beneath their first cocaine lines, we see Frank flitting between past and present. Frank Ocean attempts to woo somebody who has caught his eye here. His pitched vocal wavers as if he is nervous asking to make it one last time with an old lover, the subject of all of “Self Control.”, As we witness Frank catching up with a man from his past life, we ease into the narrative. Self Control will be the 6th song discussed in our new series where we will be discussing each individual song off of Frank Ocean's new(!! It is a cover of the Frank Ocean song of the same name. In The Before, a few months back, I was in the car with my girlfriend, driving through South Jersey to my buddy’s house. We get the sense Frank is comfortable being kept on the sidelines, as long as he is kept at all. Wishing he was there for the haircut—one of the first signs of change when a relationship goes south—and hoping he could level with this ex to summon the idea of Frank as remorseful. These lines, pulling back for a second, are what makes Frank such a force. Bad Religion. I repeated the lines again, the light turned green, and we made it to my buddy’s. Frank also reveals their growing apart was circumstantial since his lover had to exercise restraint to keep himself away from Frank. by Kendrick Lamar. The vocals of the renowned American singer Beyoncé is featured on this track. As the waves crash in, we get to the heartbreaking hook I mentioned earlier. He bids goodbye to his past self, which became tangled in superficial social notions, and asserts to go against the current of society and seek a concrete definition for his misunderstood identity. That is, we can gather their relationship was something of a firecracker—too much passion too quickly, and then nothing, kaput. The Merriam-Webster definition is "restraint exercised over one's own impulses, emotions, or desires." “Futura Free,” the final song on Frank Ocean’s masterpiece ‘Blonde,’ feels like a grand unveiling. We don’t expect “Self Control” to turn on us, but Frank is an otherworldly songwriter. Was Frank’s partner merely scared of commitment? © 2021 The DJ Booth LLC. “Self Control,” produced by Malay, Jon Brion, and Frank Ocean, is all about timing and the losses which come by way of poor timing in love. For a long time, “Self Control” was my favorite song on Blonde, simply because of the hooks and outro, simply because Frank spoke to a personal travesty with a universal scope. During this section, Frank sings about a relationship that was once alive and now seemingly dying out. And—this is the real rub—we start to remember things we’d rather forget. I speak so obtusely because, four years on, it’s still hard for me to wrap my mind around what “Nikes” means to me. Frank Ocean once hinted he’d write a novel.The personal narrative Christopher Breaux has composed around his art—the deeply moving coming-out letter on … It is the third track on Ocean’s second studio album Blonde (which is also entitled blond). It feels like the moment of clarity after bad news breaks when you come to terms with the tragedy and realize everything will eventually fall into place. A bit about me: I seem to always get dumped in August because the timing just wasn’t right for us. She watched me with heavy eyes. Because it just could not work out. So he's taking novacane to numb the pain. Nights. Timing, always the trouble of “Self Control.”. Frank Ocean - Self Control℗ Boys Don't CryReleased August 20, 2016 Because you’re their old lover. Service Codes, e.g., “Code 10” 2. Disposition Codes, e.g., “7 Charlie” 3. Alright. That’s his magic. Going back to “Solo,” the second line of the second verse is a clear call to the lines “Hand me a towel, I’m dirty dancing / By myself,” which open “Solo.” At once, we get a recontextualization of “Solo” as pure misery, an interweaving of narratives across Blonde, and a perspective shift in Frank’s songwriting. Song Meanings and Facts © 2021. “Every night fucks every day up / Every day patches the night up.”. Of course, that means this outro makes me cry—what doesn’t? Yet, like most of Blonde, Frank comes with an outro so gutting, it could stand as its own song. The pair also worked together to produce the track. Throughout the song, Frank hints the … There’s something so heartbreaking about the closing note of encouragement as Frank says, “Know you got it,” as if to suggest he knows his former lover is irresistible. His fine detailing and how he manages to make the incredibly specific broad enough for someone like myself to fall into his world and experience it as my own is inspiring. “Self Control,” produced by Malay, Jon Brion, and Frank Ocean, is all about timing and the losses which come by way of unfortunate timing in love. Buy Now Learn More. All Rights Reserved. Ocean’s moonlit new work is fluid and brilliantly straightforward. He is pining after his past on this first verse, those early nights where things were exciting and dangerous as all new relationships feel like a high, a risk, and a chance to reach a new pinnacle. He’s trying to be coy and flit around the hurt, but there’s no two ways around it—this situation fucking sucks. The first line (“I’ll be the boyfriend in your wet dreams tonight”) works in two contexts as well. Frank makes as … “Within Frank’s fresh hell, he finds his heaven.”. Self-control definition is - restraint exercised over one's own impulses, emotions, or desires. Frank Ocean wrote the song with Pharrell Williams. As usual, Frank lets his songwriting unfold and strike the way an unpleasant memory has the potential to seize us. Pyramids. Indeed this individual has already moved on to a new lover. Super Rich Kids. Based on the allusions to “Solo” in the second verse (“Now and then you miss it, sounds make you cry / Some nights you dance with tears in your eyes”), we can assume Frank is talking directly to the listener, having dissociated from the poolside scene altogether. I’ve got a buddy—a different buddy; the one I always write about—who says there are two types of people. Frank Ocean’s “Self Control,” Desperation & Timing “Self Control,” produced by Malay, Jon Brion, and Frank Ocean, is all about timing and the losses which come by way of poor timing in love. Lyrics to 'Self Control' by Frank Ocean: Pool side convo about your summer last night, oh yeah About your summer last night Ain't give you no play, mmm Could I make it shine last night Could I make it shine, on it last night, last night How to use self-control in a sentence. Suggestions. Then, finally, finally, Frank reveals the reason the relationship fell through. We’re treated to more backstory here, as Frank reveals the pair grew apart for lack of time together. Frank makes as much clear from the opening lines about poolside conversations. “Self Control” is a slow ballad which features Frank describing a relationship that is slowly falling apart. August 20, 2016 was the official release date of “Pink + White”. Thinkin Bout You. Part One: A Pleasant Intro. ... Want to write better chord progressions and melodies? Frank Ocean is finally back in full force, with a new visual album called Endless, a standalone video, free-magazine pop-up shops, and most important, a new non-visual album. There are 17 tracks on Blonde, but we will be consolidating skits and shorter tracks with other song discussions. Then, Frank takes us back in time with the first proper verse: “I’ll be the boyfriend in your wet dreams tonight / Noses on a rail, little virgin wears the white / You cut your hair but you used to live a blonded life / Wish I was there, wish we’d grown up on the same advice / And our time was right.”. There are no worries; they’ll be fine. So, when Frank sings about a lover leaving to “Take down some summertime,” begging for only one more night, I can’t shake the feeling he’s writing about my life. However, feelings still exist between the two of them. To ask for someone to hold space for you is equivalent to saying, “Please, don’t let me leave your thoughts.”. On “Self Control,” both genres of folx come together to cry about their past. Somehow they lost each other and he's numbing the pain of not being able to see her anymore. During the 15-minute drive, I decided to play some choice selects from Blonde, so I put on “Self Control” and immediately grabbed the wheel tighter. Bitch Don't Kill My Vibe. An upbeat Spaceman Patterson guitar riff opens the song along Ocean’s soothing angelic voice, before easing into a smooth drum beat. Frank Ocean - "Novacane" (from Nostalgia, Ultra, 2011) Ocean’s evolved as a lyricist, but it’s no diss to name a debut mixtape track his best-to-date because, well, he’s always been fire. Ocean and André 3000 worked together … ), highly anticipated, and long awaited album Blonde.Still seems surreal we are able to discuss Frank's new album, but here we are! “Self Control” thrives off implication. More by Frank Ocean. Unit IDs / Callsigns 5. With him speaking to us, the import of “Self Control” doubles. There are 17 tracks on Blonde, but we will be consolidating skits and shorter tracks with other song discussions. Stream Frank Ocean - Self Control by Hecktoar from desktop or your mobile device. Ocean and West, meanwhile, made noise by saying as little as possible—a shared code if I’ve ever seen one. SoundCloud Frank Ocean - Self Control by Hecktoar published on 2017-07-21T22:04 ... yo, i just remixed this song on my page and it would mean a lot if yall could check it … So the title of this track is based on their mutual ideology of “self control”. What a pity. She looked at me, admittedly not knowing what to say, and we let the weight muscle between us in the car. The time was right. The OutKast rapper's single verse continues the theme of isolation Frank Ocean sung about on the earlier Blonde track "Solo." The sincerity of Frank Ocean’s “Godspeed” reminds us of the permanence of love, and love’s ability to transform itself and us into new people. Was Frank too much? Night had fallen. If you pair the outro with the hook, you get the real depth of “Self Control,” how badly Frank wants to be remembered, considered, and loved, despite the impossible timing and the impossibility of the romance. It feels, taken in a present context, as if Frank is making a bid to relive old memories. Pink and White. How we infer Frank is no one’s boyfriend, how he cannot shake their first memories of doing coke together, how coke stands in for the rush of new love, how the timing could not have been worse. The timing was all wrong, and then someone new came ‘round, and Frank’s partner had little choice but to pursue the better choice: “I, I, I know you got someone comin’ / You’re spittin’ game, know you got it.”. Things finally matched up. She does porn to pay for her college tuition to peruse her career as a Dentist. This page has gotten kind of long; here’s some quick navigation aids: 1. We get to a written plea to be remembered. “Self Control,” produced by Malay, Jon Brion, and Frank Ocean, is all about timing and the losses which come by way of unfortunate timing in love. In my opinion, self control is a sign of maturity. Other Codes & Abbreviations 4. There’s a desperation here, the same desperation marking all of Blonde. Paying special attention to “It’s no thing, it’s nothing,” we get the sense Frank is comfortable being a passing thought in his ex’s mind, just as long as he is a thought at some point. I was on the other side of “Self Control,” living a blonded life. Bound to happen and tragic nonetheless. He can't control himself around the person and wants to be with them, even though they are also involved with someone … The end of this relationship does not feel like a monument crumbling before our eyes in some spectacular show of destruction. That is to say that considering these two individuals have apparently moved on from their romance, their goal is to refrain from … ‘Be Yourself’ This short skit – similar to ‘Channel Orange’s ‘Not Just Money‘ – sees Frank’s mother … Instead, the fallen romance of “Self Control” mimics the feeling of watching the inevitable tide wash away a sandcastle built too close to the shoreline. Something about boyfriends and wet dreams, and Frank Ocean’s immaculate pen, hit the heart from the jump. We can start to remove ourselves from the narrative, thinking we’ll walk away from this one unscathed. There is so much to miss in this life. Ocean’s poetry grows wilder as “White Ferrari” progresses, and yet the final message is so accessible: “We’re free to roam.”. We go from insular to universal. “Self Control” was released by Cavetown on 28 February 2019. Solo will be the 4th song discussed in our new series where we will be discussing each individual song off of Frank Ocean's new(!! Up Next From Culture. Singing—damn near chanting—“I, I, I know you gotta leave, leave, leave/ Take down some summertime / Give us, just tonight, night, night” to spark the outro, Frank takes the poolside scene from innocuous catch-up with a twinge of sorrow to full-blown despair. The ability to not do or say the first thing… I feel like this song is about how Frank Ocean perceives this women that he met a Coachella that does porn to pay for her. Frank Ocean’s challenges, doubts, thoughts and experiences are brought into complete focus with Blonde. We see him notice the way his former lover has changed now that they’ve stepped out of each other’s orbits. It all coalesces to suggest the lover of “Self Control” slipped away before he could ever settle fully in Frank’s heart. Original material is licensed under a Creative Commons License permitting non-commercial sharing with attribution. While there’s no clear answer on the song, we can infer based on Frank admitting to losing his self-control on the following lines. Ivy. I am sure that by now, you have Frank Ocean's long-anticipated album, Blonde, on loop, so you are aware this work is a creative masterpiece in … Self Control by Frank Ocean. I paused the music, repeated the lines slowly back to my girlfriend at a red light that seemed to go on forever. Related Stories for GQ Prada Met Gala Frank Ocean Kanye West He says some dance to remember and some dance to forget. I sang along to the remaining hook, bridge, and the somber outro. Throughout Frank Ocean's storied rise into the upper echelons of R&B royalty, there's been one odd constant: his fascination with cars. Of course, we can imagine Frank playing it cool and trying to brush off his pleas as “no thing,” but the weight of the image is just so heavy, it’s hard to imagine Frank taking back his sentiment. This insight raises a few questions, such as: Was Frank toxic? Except it was the fall-turning-winter, and we had made it through the summer together. Self-control—or the ability to manage one's impulses, emotions, and behaviors to achieve long-term goals—is what separates humans from the rest of the animal kingdom. The scene was crisp and perfect. Not only is self control my favorite song on Frank Ocean's album "Blonde", but it is a very important skill to have. ), highly anticipated, and long awaited album Blonde.Still seems surreal we are able to discuss Frank's new album, but here we are! 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